Are you a victim? Do you feel like the world is against you and you have no power over your own destiny or actions? You need to spend some time walking in a cactus garden or out in the desert Southwest. You will learn what self reliance means. It means that now matter how bad the conditions or how poor the spot where you are living, you always have control over your own life and your own attitude. Look to the cactus for inspiration. They thrive in conditions where most plants would die.